Our Story
What are you really hoping will change?
Maybe you want to lose some body fat.
Build your glutes. Shape your legs. Get stronger. Look amazing in your clothes. Feel confident at the beach. Look in the mirror and genuinely love what you see.
Maybe you want more energy.
To sleep better.
To stop starting again every Monday.
Maybe somewhere between work, family, relationships, responsibilities and looking after everybody else, you've lost a little of you.
Or maybe you simply want to feel beautiful, confident and sexy again.
Whatever brought you here, here's a question worth asking:
What are you really hoping will be different when you get there?
Because sometimes the thing we say we want isn't the whole story.
Maybe the body is only the beginning
I've spent almost three decades working in fitness, nutrition, health and behaviour change.
I've helped people lose significant amounts of weight, build muscle, transform their body composition, become stronger and fitter, and achieve some extraordinary aesthetic transformations.
And particularly through years of coaching women, I've learned something I think the health industry sometimes struggles to say:
How you look can matter to you.
Wanting to feel attractive doesn't make you vain.
Wanting shapely legs, strong glutes, a smaller waist or a beautiful, fit body doesn't mean you don't appreciate the body you have.
Wanting to feel sexy doesn't become irrelevant because you're 35, 45, 55 or beyond.
Wanting to walk onto a beach confidently, wear clothes you've been avoiding or love what you see in the mirror can be completely legitimate reasons to change.
Your appearance can matter without determining your worth.
But after watching people transform for nearly three decades, I've also learned something much more interesting.
The body someone initially asks me to help change is often only the beginning of the story.
Because what are you hoping happens when you get there?
Will you finally wear the clothes you've been saving for “when I lose the weight”?
Walk onto the beach without automatically wanting to cover yourself?
Want to be in photographs again?
Feel confident when someone looks at you?
Feel stronger and more capable?
Have more energy for your children?
Feel sexy with your partner?
Recognise the person looking back at you?
Perhaps the goal was never just losing the weight.
Perhaps it was what you believed losing the weight would allow you to feel, do and become.
That's where things get much more interesting.
What if the things you're trying to change aren't separate?
We divide health into categories because they're easier to understand that way.
Training.
Nutrition.
Sleep.
Stress.
Body composition.
Confidence.
Relationships.
Intimacy.
Habits.
Mental wellbeing.
But you don't actually experience your life in categories.
A terrible night's sleep doesn't remain neatly inside the “sleep” box. It can affect your energy, hunger, training, recovery, mood and patience.
Stress doesn't necessarily stay at work when you come home.
Nutrition affects much more than the number on the scales.
Training can change your strength and your body — but it can also change confidence and what you believe you're capable of.
How you feel about your body can follow you far beyond the gym.
Your relationship can affect your wellbeing, and how you're feeling can affect your relationship.
Confidence, affection, sex, energy, stress, family, work and the way you feel about yourself don't conveniently wait their turn.
And improvement can spread too.
Getting stronger can change confidence.
Sleeping better can make everything feel a little easier.
Taking care of yourself can influence how you show up for everybody else.
Changing one behaviour can create enough belief to tackle another.
You can't separate the body from the person living in it.
And yet we often try to solve our lives as though we can.
A diet for this.
A workout for that.
Something for sleep.
Something else for stress.
Another supplement.
Another challenge.
More motivation.
More discipline.
More effort.
Which raises a much more useful question:
What if you don't need to try harder?
What if you need to understand what actually needs to change?
That question changed the way I coach.
There are thousands of workouts online.
More diets than any of us could possibly follow.
Podcasts, apps, trackers, challenges, supplements, books, influencers and enough health advice to keep you scrolling for the rest of your life.
Information matters.
But after almost three decades of coaching, I've become less interested in simply giving people more things to do.
I'm much more interested in helping someone understand:
What actually matters for me?
What should I focus on now?
What's really holding me back?
What am I already doing well?
What can I stop worrying about?
Do I need better training — or better recovery?
Is nutrition actually the problem?
Do I lack knowledge — or consistency?
Am I trying to follow a system that was never realistic for my life?
How much do I really need to do to get the result I want?
And perhaps most importantly:
What am I actually trying to create?
Sometimes you need better training.
Sometimes you need nutrition support.
Sometimes you need education.
Sometimes you need structure.
Sometimes you know exactly what to do but struggle to do it consistently.
Sometimes you need accountability.
Sometimes sleep, stress or recovery deserves more attention.
Sometimes you need a practical tool that simply makes something easier.
And sometimes you need somebody experienced enough to look at the bigger picture and help you see something you've been missing.
The solution should fit the problem — and the person.
Not the other way around.
Finding the Sweet Spot
The fitness and wellness industries have become very good at convincing us that more must be better.
Train harder.
Eat less.
Track everything.
Optimise everything.
Never miss a workout.
Wake up earlier.
Be more disciplined.
Do more.
And if it isn't working?
Try harder.
Sometimes doing more is exactly what's required.
But there is also a point where the pursuit of health starts consuming the life it was supposed to improve.
Because you still have to live.
There are careers to build.
Children to raise.
Relationships to nurture.
People who need you.
Dinners out.
Birthdays.
Holidays.
Difficult weeks.
Late nights.
Great weekends.
And Sunday mornings when you'd much rather stay in bed.
So the answer isn't to stop caring.
I want you to care.
Care about your health.
Care about becoming strong.
Care about your body.
Care about how you look.
Care about how you feel.
Care about your relationships.
Care about your future.
But find the point where the things you do create meaningful results without unnecessarily taking over the life those results are supposed to improve.
I call that your Sweet Spot.
It's the place between too little to create the change you want and so much that maintaining it becomes your life.
You train — but training doesn't own you.
You eat intelligently — without becoming frightened of food.
You can pursue an amazing body — without believing your appearance determines your worth.
You work hard — and understand when you need to recover.
You can love your family deeply — without disappearing inside everybody else's needs.
You can want to feel attractive and desired — because those things matter to you.
You can pursue health and longevity — while remembering that the point of having more years is having more life to enjoy within them.
That's your Sweet Spot.
And yours won't necessarily look like anybody else's.
Because your body, goals, responsibilities, relationships, preferences and life are yours.
Five parts. One life.
Eventually, this philosophy became a framework.
The SWEET Method™.
Five different lenses through which we can understand the things that influence how you look, feel and live.
Strength
Building a strong, capable body.
Training for muscle, fitness, body composition and performance.
Discovering what you're physically capable of.
And yes — building the legs, glutes, shape and body you've always wanted can absolutely be part of it.
Wellness
Nutrition. Sleep. Recovery. Stress. Energy. Health.
The foundations that allow your body and mind to function well — without turning looking after yourself into another full-time job.
Embodiment
Feeling at home in the body you're working so hard to look after.
Body confidence. Self-care. Identity. Presence. Femininity.
Not merely having a body.
Enjoying living in it.
Empowerment
Because knowing what to do isn't always enough.
Habits. Behaviour change. Beliefs. Boundaries. Resilience. Confidence. Personal responsibility.
Becoming increasingly capable of creating change rather than waiting for motivation to arrive.
Turn-On
The part of wellbeing we're often strangely reluctant to talk about.
Relationships.
Connection.
Affection.
Intimacy.
Sex.
Pleasure.
Desire.
Play.
Fun.
Excitement.
The things that remind you that being alive should involve more than being healthy and productive.
We separate these five areas so we can understand and work on them.
They're connected because that's how you actually experience them.
That's why Sweet Spot Living became more than fitness coaching.
At this stage of my career, I don't want everything I've learned to exist only inside individual personal-training sessions.
Sweet Spot Living is the evolution of almost three decades of coaching, learning, experimenting, observing and refining what helps real people create real change.
It's being built around systems and solutions, rather than one single way of helping everybody.
A place where you can understand what you're experiencing.
Learn what matters.
Question things you've always assumed were true.
Discover what may actually be holding you back.
And find an appropriate way forward.
Sometimes that might be something you can learn and implement yourself.
Sometimes a training system.
Sometimes nutrition support.
Sometimes a practical tool or product.
Sometimes accountability.
And sometimes more personalised coaching.
The goal isn't to make you dependent on me — or any coach.
It's to help you understand yourself well enough, and build the skills and systems you need, to become increasingly capable of creating your own results.
Because no coach, program, diet, supplement or product can create your Sweet Spot for you.
You create it through the way you live.
Sweet Spot Living simply exists to help you get better at doing that.
Science. Simplicity. Consistency.
These three words sit underneath everything we do.
Science
What we teach should have a reason behind it.
Not fear.
Not pseudoscience.
Not a wellness trend simply because everybody is talking about it.
Where good evidence exists, we use it.
Where the answer isn't clear, we should be willing to say that too.
Simplicity
You probably don't need to know everything.
You need to understand the things that matter to you.
Then make them practical enough to survive contact with real life.
Consistency
You don't need to be perfect.
You need to become good at doing the things that matter often enough, for long enough, that they begin becoming part of who you are.
Because lasting change isn't something you continually start.
Eventually...
it's simply how you live.
So, what is it that you really want?
Go back to the reason you started reading.
Was it the weight?
Your stomach?
Your legs?
Your glutes?
Your fitness?
Your energy?
Your health?
Your confidence?
Maybe it still is.
There's nothing wrong with that.
But now ask yourself another question.
What do you believe will change when you get there?
Maybe you want to walk into a room and feel confident.
Wear the dress.
Take the photograph.
Go to the beach.
Feel strong.
Stop fighting with food.
Have energy left at the end of the day.
Feel comfortable naked.
Reconnect with your partner.
Have better sex.
Take care of the people you love without continually putting yourself last.
Look in the mirror and recognise yourself again.
Or perhaps you're already doing pretty well.
And you simply know there's more of you available.
More strength.
More confidence.
More connection.
More experiences.
More fun.
More life.
So perhaps the most useful question isn't:
“What should I do?”
Maybe it's:
“What do I actually want my life to feel like — and what's really stopping me from getting there?”
You don't need to change everything tomorrow.
You don't need to become obsessed with health.
And you certainly don't need to become somebody else.
Maybe you just need to understand which parts of your life need a little more attention — and start there.
Build your strength.
Look after your wellbeing.
Feel at home in your body.
Become capable of creating change.
Stay connected to the things that make you feel alive.
And somewhere amongst all of that...
find your Sweet Spot.
David Kearns
Founder, Sweet Spot Living™
Creator of the SWEET Method™
Live in your sweet spot.
Science • Simplicity • Consistency.